The Impossbile Love

We have all experienced Love at some level , love to a person,love to an ideal , love to material things ... the commonality between different kinds of love is the fact that we covet the object of our desires when we are in love with them. Probably this is the reason why all such different desires are called Love ,

I have heard a lot of people say that being in love is the purest form of selflessness , and there in lies the contradiction - how can the idea of coveting something be a form of selflessness ? The motive behind coveting something is possession. Which is also the theme for being selfish ,

So is Love really about selflessness or is it about being selfish. For the longest time i have believed that being in Love with some[thing/one] is one of the most selfish acts one human is capable of. After all coveting another human being for your own desires cannot be defined as selflessness. I was convinced that i was right until i had a chance to encounter something called the Impossible Love. (In person and in others).

Love to a person/object which you can never covet or attain is the Impossible Love , it goes against all the things that we have been taught in our life. Yet when we have our encounter with the impossible love it humbles us. We are willing to fall to any level , go against the very nature of our selves to obtain the Impossible Love , we do so with the full knowledge that we cannot hope to achieve it. But we try nonetheless and at times destroy ourselves doing so.

The Impossible Love in a lot of ways is in contradiction to the so called traditional love. Traditional Love has to be shared, it grows when it is mutual , but the impossible love is all yours to keep you can't share it with the object of your desire and you can't hope of anyone else understanding how you feel about him/her. In some ways it is divine , for it is the devotion to that person which keeps you loving her even though you know that there is no chance in hell for reciprocation.

When they say faith moves mountains they are referring to the impossible love. Traditional Love is mortal , it dies when you fall out of love with someone or when you die , but the impossible love is immortal , the theme of Traditional love is exaltation but the theme of Impossible Love is suffering.

In the past impossible love has been associated with Divinity and Gods for example in Hindu Mythology we have Meera - who in her love to Krishna destroyed herself , went against her very nature and surrendered her soul to him. As compared to Radha (Traditional Love) who married Krishna and had a fulfilling life, Radha surrendered her body to him. And it is Meera who is the saint and not Radha. It is Meera who was immortalized in comparision to Radha.

One should consider oneself lucky if they have encountered Traditional Love , for it proves that you are not alone and there is someone for you. one should consider themselves divine if they had a chance of experiencing the impossible love (for whatever reason - it could be a person , an ideal , even your dream job).